The People Pleaser Problem: Why They're Miserable (But Helpers Aren't!)

Unpacking the difference between the Helper Trope and People-Pleaser Trope on screen, people who are forced to be helpers, the *negative* side effects that can come from being a people-pleaser, and beyond. Featuring Parks and Recreation's Leslie Knope, Black-ish's Rainbow Johnson, New Girl's Jess Day, Shōgun's Toda Mariko, Friends' Monica Geller, Superstore's Amy Sosa, and more! We take a look at people pleaser syndrome / why some people are people-pleasers, what a people-pleaser is, how it's different from just being a helpful person, and how being a people-pleaser can cause you problems

Most all of us like to be nice, but some people just feel like they were born to help others. They’ll take any chance to provide assistance, big or small – unasked for (and, often, unthanked…) While being helpful is a good thing, it can also evolve into a people-pleasing attitude that can have surprisingly negative effects on the helper themselves (and sometimes even the people being “helped”!) So let’s take a closer look at what’s really going on with Helpers and People-Pleasers, what makes them different, the problems they can encounter, and what we can really learn from these tropes.

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CHAPTERS
00:00 Intro
00:37 Helping vs People-pleasing
01:04 The Helpers
03:44 The People-pleasers
07:08 Helping for darker reasons...
08:35 When we're forced into people-pleasing
11:13 The dark side of being a people-pleaser
13:01 Build a happier future for *all* of us

The Take was created by Debra Minoff & Susannah McCullough

Films/shows mentioned/shown in this video:
2 Broke Girls, 20 Rock, Abbott Elementary, Arrested Development, Barry, The Bear, Black-ish, Blade Runner 2049, Bridgerton, Broad City, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Curb Your Enthusiasm, Ex Machina, Friends, Girls, Grey's Anatomy, Happy Endings, How to Die Alone, interview with Fred Rogers (Mr. Rogers), Lost, New Girl, Parks and Recreation, Sex and the City, Shameless, Shogun, Succession, Superman, Superstore, The Expanse, The Good Place, The White Lotus, Veep

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