The Pick Me Paradox: when misogyny comes full circle

In this video I discuss the evolution of the phrase "pick me", which stems from African American Vernacular English and was originally intended to critique internalised misogyny. But now, it's been coopted by social media and become its own Frankenstein's monster...

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Chapters:
0:00 Girls, girls, girls
4:20 The history & evolution of the pick me
7:40 The toxic trajectory of the pick me girl
17:26 The “Anti-Pick Me Girl”
24:04 That subway tiktok
35:21 The internet’s eternal misappropriation of language
40:10 Pick mes still exist, so what now?
44:15 Credits & Pet Shoutout ?

My old videos:
'the rise of the pick me girl meme' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dm47LYh2SBk
'Not like other girls, pick me girls...what about MEN?' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZDbRb5wXEU
'The anatomy of a "girls' girl" (& when it turns toxic)' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SAzPm4PXhgY

Other videos referenced:
Casey Aonso's: 'tik tok made "i'm not like other girls" trendy again... great' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bO4IPgv8PII
Vianas' 'Exposing the 'Girls Girl' and why they don't like you' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzlnNU2lI-U
Tee Noir's 'The "Blaccent": Nonblack Creators' Key to Fame' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VOgKI4QNGlU
& 'When the Black Gaze Expires: A Kardashian Commentary (Part One)' https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1-uh-ADzDE

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Sources:
1. https://www.bustle.com/life/what-is-a-pick-me-girl-definition-traits
2. https://www.dukechronicle.com/article/2023/11/110223-anand-pick-me-girl-defense
3. https://womensmediacenter.com/fbomb/why-the-pick-me-trend-is-problematic
4. https://capsulenz.com/do/pop-culture/pick-me-girl/
5. https://berkeleybeacon.com/pick-me-choose-me-love-me-why-the-villainization-of-pick-me-girls-is-anti-feminist/
6. https://www.modernintimacy.com/the-psychology-of-the-pick-me-girl/
7. https://dailytrojan.com/2023/11/20/shes-not-a-pick-me-youre-a-misogynist/
8. https://www.jezebel.com/pick-me-girl-trend-problem-1850635728
9. https://www.studlife.com/forum/2024/02/28/pick-me-choose-me-love-me-the-evolution-of-the-pick-me-girl
10. https://www.verywellmind.com/pick-me-girl-8629633
11. https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/62349/1/the-candid-girlfriend-isnt-real-stef-dag-tiktok-subway-takes-pickme
12. https://www.dazeddigital.com/life-culture/article/62418/1/girl-s-girl-feminism-is-bullshit-pick-me

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