The discourse for discussing black men and relationships is... spotty to say the least. Between the rise of certain relationship commentators, the "Divestment" movement, and everything in between, there's a lot of people saying a lot of stuff at the extremes of this topic.
While there are important nuggets of information and discussions going on, I can't help but feel like there's a few important pieces of the puzzle that haven't been talked about yet. With that in mind, I figured I'd try to add my two cents, talk about a few of my favorite movies (Love Jones and Love and Basketball) that I haven't seen people talk about in a while, and bring up a few more examples of how black men experience and receive love.
To add to the pot, I also brought in a few friends from various communities, ages, and experiences to speak on what they see and feel as well. So we cover a bit of everything, being vulnerable, lacking emotional connection, playing a man's role, and the closest thing a man has to lacking pretty privilege... being broke!
All that and more on this episode of the Black Media Breakdown.
00:00 Intro
02:19 Story Time! (How I met my wife)
07:09 Are black men "Falling in love"?
09:25 Masculinity vs Vulnerability
27:45 Love or Role Competency pt 1
33:07 Broke Boys Don't Deserve no...?
41:10 Love or Role Competency pt 2
54:24 When the Love is Gone
58:26 Final Thoughts
For any black men interested in speaking with other men around this and similar topics, you can check out the Undugu foundation on facebook- https://undugukickbacks.com/?fbclid=IwAR3odri1uk6ZEW9kxpI4xzQsguTK2v1oM686vfQz1s52_kBje2R1nLZOCdc
Song by Jobi- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HawuLLHRA0k